Self-Defeat
Focus on exploring past or present successful behavior change with the client/patient who is expressing self-defeat.
TAP the examples below to see what you can say in response.
Client: I've tried it before and it didn't work. I just can't do it.
Try: Tell me about the time you tried before.
OR: You've been very successful at... [e.g., maintaining employment, losing weight, taking medicines, keeping follow-up visits]. Tell me what worked for you.Client: This is not going to work for me.
Try: You don't think quitting would work for you now. If you'd ever like to talk about available options, I would be happy to meet with you.
OR: I'm available to talk with you at our next appointment. We have a program that you might find helpful that is recommended by doctors, nurses and social workers.